GIRL Scouts of the USA this week shared a reminder to parents that they shouldn’t force their daughters to show affection to relatives this holiday season.

The organization tweeted the reminder with the caption, “Forced affection = Not O.K,” linking to an article published on its website, “Reminder: She Doesn’t Owe Anyone a Hug. Not even at the Holidays.”

“Holidays and family get-togethers are a time for yummy food, sweet traditions, funny stories, and lots and lots of love. But they could, without you even realizing it, also be a time when your daughter gets the wrong idea about consent and physical affection,” the article begins.

It goes on to give some examples of the type of affection being referred to, including hugging relatives.

“Have you ever insisted, ‘Uncle just got here — go give him a big hug!’ or ‘Auntie gave you that nice toy, go give her a kiss,’ when you were worried your child might not offer affection on her own? If yes, you might want to reconsider the urge to do that in the future.”

Though the article is discussing forced affection when it comes to family, the organization says this could lead girls to question whether or not they might “owe” others physical affection when they do something nice for them in the future.

“The notion of consent may seem very grown-up and like something that doesn’t pertain to children,” says Girl Scouts’ developmental psychologist Andrea Bastiani Archibald. “But the lessons girls learn when they’re young about setting physical boundaries and expecting them to be respected last a lifetime, and can influence how she feels about herself and her body as she gets older.”

Bastiani goes on to say that teaching children about consent early on can help them understand their rights and when lines are being crossed, as well as teaching them when they should seek help.

But instead of a blanket ban on family affection, the organization wants to encourage parents to decide how and when they would like to show affection.

“Of course, many children may naturally want to hug and kiss family members, friends and neighbors, and that’s lovely — but if your daughter is reticent, consider letting her choose what to do,” it suggests.

The article also cites some other examples of giving non-physical affection to show appreciation.

“Saying how much she’s missed someone or thank you with a smile, a high-five, or even an air kiss are all ways she can express herself, and it’s important that she knows she gets to choose which feels most comfortable to her,” the organization says.

Since sharing the advice, people have headed to social media to share their opinions on the topic.

Although many have spoken out against the warning, calling it “dumb” and “nonsense,” some welcomed the advice.

“I absolutely wish that the family I was raised in had adhered to this practice. Female bodies should never be playgrounds for quid pro quos,” one comment says.

(SD-Agencies)