Getting a call back is not entirely dependent on how well the date goes. A date can go sour and afterward, the person would reach out. Also, it could go well and you get ghosted.

Ghosting, after a date, is based on different reasons and some far from how the date turns out. However, getting ghosted is not a gender-specific experience, men get ghosted just as women do after a date. Although, it is arguable that women get ghosted more than men, after a date.

According to Natalie Jones, a doctor of psychology, someone’s reason for ghosting you has little to do with you.

They are not into commitments.

Commitment in a relationship is a big step and certain people are not in that frame of mind to take the step. If building a relationship is the next step you intend to take and it isn’t theirs, then the probability of ghosting you after the date is high, regardless of how connected you might feel. No one likes to take up what they are not ready for.

There is someone else in the picture.

Not everyone that goes on a date is completely single. Matter of fact, there is no rule against hitched individuals going on a date with a single person. Sometimes, hitched individuals go on dates to relieve themselves of stress from their partner, or just to experience hanging out with someone new. If you happen to go on a date with someone in this category, getting ghosted is very possible. A married person or someone in a serious relationship will not totally commit to someone single. Except the thought of being a side-chick or side-guy is appealing to you.

They got what they wanted.

Dates can be beautiful and romantic, so much that an instant connection happens and sparks fly. This could lead to having sex, transferring money, or giving out a piece of vital information that helps the other person. For some people that have the motive of gaining something from the date asides from getting to know you, when they get what they want, there is likely to be no text or call back.

They have anxiety issues.

Getting ghosted could be a result of fear. There are people who battle with anxiety birthed from fear. The fear of not being enough and lovable, which could be a result of past failed relationships. This type of person holds back from reaching out after a date, to avoid going through such failure again. Even if the date goes well, it can seem too good to be true.

Words to Learn 相关词汇

【玩消失】 wán xiāoshī ghost end a personal relationship with (someone) by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication

【已婚的】 yǐhūn de hitched married

并不是说约会顺利对方就会给你回电话。可能约会不太顺利，对方事后仍主动联系你；也有可能进展顺利，你却被甩了。

约会对象在一次约会后突然消失，原因多种多样，有些原因甚至与约会进展毫不相关，与性别也同样不相关。约会后女性可能会被甩，男性也可能会。但总的来看，女性在约会后被甩的次数比男性多。

心理学博士娜塔丽•琼斯说，有人把你甩了这事与你自身没太大关系。

1. 他们不想作出承诺

在一段关系中，承诺是重要一步，而某些人却无心迈出这一步。如果你接下来打算建立关系，而对方却没这个意向，那么就算你觉得和对方很亲近，对方依旧会甩了你。你想更进一步，而对方可能并没有做好准备。

2. 她/他心里还有别人

并非每个去约会的人都是单身。其实，没人规定已婚人士不能与单身人士约会。有时，已婚人士去约会是为了减轻来自伴侣的压力，或只是为了体验新鲜感。如果你碰巧是和这类人约会，你很有可能会被甩。非单身人士不会给一个单身的人以承诺，除非你想当第三者。

3. 他们已经得手了

约会是美丽而浪漫的，你们或许会一见钟情，干柴烈火。你们可能会发生关系，可能会给对方花钱，也可能会向对方透露重要的有利信息。对于一些人来说，除了了解你之外，他们只想从约会中得到他们想要的东西。当他们得手时，就不会给你回短信或者回电话了。

4. 他们有点焦虑

约会完玩消失可能是因为他们害怕。有些人会因为害怕而产生焦虑情绪。他们可能因为过去谈过几次失败的恋爱，所以害怕自己不够好，不够可爱。这种人在约会后忍住不主动联系对方，以免再次失败。如果约会进行得很顺利，他们会觉得美好得太不真实了。(chinadaily.com.cn)