Han Wangxi

PLATO once said in his “Symposium” that the tranquility of human society, the calmness of the sea, the cessation of storms, and the sweet sleep amid all suffering are all achievements of love.

Where do we find peace? It begins with love for our family and extends to love for all humanity. “Care for the aged begins with caring for one’s own elderly; care for the young begins with caring for one’s own young.” By treating others as we would treat ourselves, we find peace in the comfort of family.

There is an ancient Chinese saying, “Don’t admonish spring birds, for the nestlings await the return of their mother.” The love between parents and children evokes infinite sentimentality. Without a mother’s protection, a child’s life is precarious.

The bond between mother and children is, in essence, affirmed through life and death. When contemplating the meaning of life, we must ask ourselves: “How should we treat those who have given us life? Should we be filial, respectful, and grateful?”

Filial piety is the cornerstone of Confucian culture, and its significance is profound. Confucianism emphasizes filial piety with a strong sense of humaneness and familial affection. Blood ties embody human affection, and the love between relatives, particularly between parents and children, is the most natural thing.

Therefore, Confucianism insists that the love between parents and children is fundamental. Love for people and things must start with the love between parents and children, gradually extending this love from parents, siblings, and family to the community.

Through this gradual process, one comes to understand the concept of “the benevolent finds peace in benevolence.” Recognizing others’ intentions, contemplating their feelings, and helping others achieve their goals are all part of this philosophy.

The Five Cardinal Relationships — ruler and subject, father and son, husband and wife, elder and younger siblings, and friends — all revolve around love for family, allowing people to experience the essence of life’s beginnings.

Confucianism’s path focuses on the way of humanity, life, and relationships, with personal and societal values based on these principles. The way of Confucianism is the way of the heart — a tender and compassionate heart.

Traditional Chinese family education instills gratitude, familial affection, and filial piety as the roots of virtue and upbringing. Just as a big tree needs solid roots to grow from a sapling into a towering tree, the family provides a sense of security.

(The author is a cultural scholar.)

(Translated by Shenzhen Daily)