A new study, aimed at discovering the positive effects of breakups, has suggested it takes three months to get over a relationship falling apart.

Research published in U.S. magazine, The Journal of Positive Psychology, found that it takes 11 weeks to feel the beneficial effects of a relationship split.

This follows previous findings that it could take up to six months to be able to move on.

Gary Lewandowski and Nicole Bizzoco of Monmouth University, New Jersey, questioned 155 people who had been through a breakup in the last six months.

They found that 71 percent of people began to see the positives in the split in just a short period of time.

Those who have made it through the initial three months after a break are described as having left “the recovery zone,” a period of painful adjustment and healing.

Lewandowski and Bizzoco found that people started to feel better about themselves and developed strong coping strategies beyond the 11-week mark.

However, this research may only apply to short-term relationships.

A different study that questioned how long it would take couples to get over a divorce found the time frame was significantly longer.

Dating site Fifties.com found that it takes an average of 18 months to get over a marriage breakdown, which is six times longer than Lewandowski and Bizzoco’s estimate.

This may be because a marriage is considered a more serious commitment. Of those questioned by the website, one in six said they found it hard to deal with the feelings of failure.

And while 43 percent of people said that they felt a sense of relief when their divorce came through, 31 percent said that they still felt a sense of sadness.

    一项致力于寻找分手积极意义的新研究发现，三个月的时间可以使人从一段破裂的感情中走出来。

    这项研究刊登于美国杂志《积极心理学》学刊，发现分手后11周人们会感受到积极的一面。

    此前有研究称人们分手六个月后才能恢复正常生活。

    新泽西州蒙莫斯大学的盖里·莱万多夫斯基和尼克尔·比佐科询问了155个在过去六个月内分手的人。

    他们发现71%的人在短时间内就已经开始看到分手的积极影响。

    熬过了最初三个月的被认为是摆脱了“恢复期”，这是一段充满痛苦和治愈的时期。

    莱万多夫斯基和比佐科发现11周后人们开始自我感觉转好并且找到了有效的应对策略。

    然而，这一研究只适用于短期关系。

    另一项夫妻需多久走出离婚阴影的研究发现，这需要比11周长很多的时间。

    交友网站Fifties.com发现，婚姻破裂后人们平均需要18个月来恢复，是莱万多夫斯基和比佐科预计的六倍。

    这也许是因为婚姻是更为严肃的承诺，该网站调查的人中，有六分之一表示他们难以面对失败的感觉。

    43%的人表示离婚到来的时候感觉到了解脱，31%的人还是感到伤心。

   Words to Learn 相关词汇 

【承诺】chéngnuò commitment a pledge or promise, obligation

【解脱】jiětuō relief alleviation, ease, or deliverance through the removal of pain, distress, oppression