In personal interactions in Japan, it’s common for people to avoid confrontations rather than charge into them. On top of that, mainstream attitudes generally work out so that women are, on average, more accommodating and deferential than men.

That doesn’t mean that married life in Japan is all “I have prepared your supper, honored husband,” and “Shall I draw you a bath?” though. When their displeasure passes a certain threshold, Japanese women are as capable of spitting angry fire at their spouses as anyone else.

But which particular brands of vitriol burn the worst? To find out, Internet portal R25 polled 200 Japanese men between the ages of 20 and 39, presenting them with a list of 23 commonly voiced complaints from frustrated wives, and asked them to pick the ones that would hurt the most to hear. Each respondent’s top selection received three points, with two points going to his second pick and one to his third.

Let’s take a look at the top 10:

10. Stop wasting so much money on things you don’t need! (26 points)

In many Japanese households, the husband turns his paycheck over to his wife, who manages the family finances.

9. Stop being such a lazy fatso! (28 points)

8. I don’t want to share a grave with you! (33 points)

7. At least take care of the dishes after we eat dinner! (39 points)

6. Take care of the cooking once in a while! (43 points)

5. Show more appreciation for the things I do! (85 points)

The men who selected this response predicated it on the fact that they do, in fact, feel a deep gratitude towards their better halves. “It would hurt to know those feelings aren’t coming across,” explained one man.

4. If we didn’t have kids, I’d totally have divorced you by now! (97 points)

3. I made a huge mistake marrying you! (166 points)

2. You stink! (201 points)

1. Earn more money! (230 points)

在日本的人际交往中，人们通常会避免与他人发生冲突，以免让自己陷入麻烦。加之，主流观念的影响十分深远，一般来

说，相比于男性，女性整体更加随和、顺从。但这并不意味着日本人的婚后生活中每天都会上演“亲爱的老公，晚饭已经准备好

了”、“需要我为你放洗澡水吗？”之类的桥段。当日本女性的不满情绪超过底线

时，她们和别人一样都会向配偶发泄心中的愤怒。那么，究竟哪句刻薄话最伤人呢？为了找到答案，一家门户网站R25在200名20至39岁的日本男性中展开了民意调查。该网站列出了一份清单，上面写着情绪沮丧的妻子通常会说的23句抱怨话，然后发给每位受访者，让他们各自选出最伤人的几句。每个人的第一选择得三分、第二选择得两

分、第三选择得一分。

让我们来看看排行前十位：

第十名. 不要把这么多钱浪费在你不需要的东西上！（26分）在大多数日本家庭中，丈夫把薪水交给妻子，所以妻子掌握着家里的财政大权。

第九名. 不要再做懒胖子啦！（28分）

第八名. 我才不要跟你埋在一起！（33分）

第七名. 吃完饭至少洗一下碗吧！（39分）

第六名. 你好歹做一顿饭呀！（43分）

第五名. 为我所做的事情你该表示一些感谢呀！（85分）选择这句话的男士回应，实际上，他们确实对自己的妻子心存感激。一位男士解释道：“当知道妻子并不能感受到自己的感激之情时，让人很受伤。”

第四名. 要不是我们有了孩子，我早和你离婚了！（97分）

第三名. 嫁给你是我天大的错！（166分）

第二名. 你浑身臭烘烘的（201分）

第一名. 多赚点钱 （230分）

    Words to Learn 相关词汇

   【冲突】chōngtū confrontation an open conflict of opposing ideas, forces, etc.

    【刻薄话】kèbó huà vitriol something highly caustic or severe in effect, as criticism